Love and Feminine PowerThis is a mix of recent letters and conversations. The whole thing started from two books that I read by David Deida -- Finding God Through Sex & The Way of the Superior Man.
Being a single woman in your mid-30s is an interesting place to be. Sitting there you hold the beauty of youth -- yet you are well on your way to achieving the wisdom of a mature woman. How cool is that? Does it feel that way to you? Do you miss the excitement of youth? Do you wish you already had the wisdom of experience? Why rush? You'll get there in good time. That's why I am attracted to older women. They have wisdom AND beauty. You can have your cake and eat it too! Why then, are so many ladies in their 30s feeling such a lack in their lives? An interesting way to define beauty is based on one's ability to love, to radiate love and life. With that definition, age becomes immaterial. You'll need to be very strong to withstand society's onslaught against your radiance. Many people, many corporations have a vested interest in making you feel less radiant. Making you feel less than you are -- so you will depend on them -- so you will buy their products. Many women have a huge capacity for love and that capacity brings them so much pain. What if we could love the pain as much as the joy? We would be totally liberated -- no matter what the world does to us we are happy. Our happiness is defined through our ability to "feel". Not to feel joy, not to grasp at joy or shun pain -- just to feel. This is about loving the act of living. Savouring the full range of emotion. A woman's ability to feel is a huge gift. As a man, I spend so much of my time avoiding any feeling at all! Do you have a strong desire to release yourself to love? Most ladies I know have this desire. For me, feminine power is about releasing into love -- combined with a radiance that makes me move (with every woman I have ever loved -- this movement was there instantly). All of the women in my life have a huge desire to release into love. Typically, this has been enhanced by a distant or absent father figure in their lives. They have a deep attraction to masculine power. Likewise, I have a huge attraction to feminine power -- life, love, radiance. I am attracted to highly radiant powerful ladies. My definition of feminine power is very traditional. I've realised that seeking "equality" in a relationship is the kiss of death. It's pretty much how I killed my marriage. Sexual love is about polarity. Particularly, when you are as polar as I am (and as my partners are). The women I love are not attracted to "equals", they are attracted to men. Politically incorrect but passionately essential. I imagine that many successful business women, may feel a sense of inner conflict over this contrast. You kick ass at the office all day (masculine energy) and then want to release into your feminine side at night. Does this make you weak? Can you turn off the masculine side when you get home? How do I know these issues? Well, I lived them. I'm only starting to realise the dynamic that was occurring. Lots of fun when the veil is lifted. A thought -- what if women made their key decisions based on love? So many ladies want marriage, kids, promotions, lovers, cars... Those things are great but what if they were able to achieve a deep sense of love in their lives? What if they had a man, a job, a situation, friends that enabled them to release into love, to share love, to give love, to receive love. More than a fancy dinner, more than a promotion, a large house, and a membership to the country club -- deep love will lead to satisfaction. I see so many ladies making decisions based on what they think they "should" do rather than what will bring them the most love. Choosing love seems to be the way to go. In university, people used to ask my girlfriend why she was with me (I was a bit of a case). She'd just smile. Rough as I was, I enabled her to release into love. Not sure if either of us realised it at the time. One of the most polar relationships of my life and there was certainly no shortage of passion. I think I am done being accommodating for a while. Look out world -- ha ha ha. Why wait to be happy? Why are we in a rush to get to the future? What would happen if ladies shed everything in their lives that didn't bring them love? If you are not happy right now then when will you let yourself experience the joy of living? Happiness today is all we have. |